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It’s good to be independent in life – you don’t have to rely on anyone else, you have freedom, and you can be proud of your achievements. But there are problems with this idea as well, not least of which is the fact that when you try to do everything yourself, your mental health and wellbeing can suffer because you’re taking on too much. 

 

It makes sense to tackle the challenges you’re confident in doing or the ones you’re excited to try to solve, but when you try to do it all without any help, you’re going to burn out sooner or later, and when that happens, you won’t be able to do anything at all. 

 

Are you still tempted to try to do it all? Why not wait a moment and read through our reasons for getting help when you need it? You might find that you’ve changed your mind by the end.

It’s Too Much

As we mentioned above, when you take on every task that comes your way, it will become too much. You’ll be constantly busy and never have a chance to reflect on your achievements or learn from your mistakes, and you’ll just be constantly trying to take on one job after the next. Not only that, but you won’t have any time to just sit back and relax, even for a moment – after all, life doesn’t stop just because you’re feeling overwhelmed and there’s always something that needs to be done and that something is down to you if you choose this path. 

 

As you can see, this isn’t a great situation to be in. If you do want to take a break, you’ll find it hard to, and the truth is you might not even realize when a break is possible because you’re so used to working and doing things – it could even be that when you stop, even for a moment, you feel horrible guilt

 

It’s far better to ask for help from the start so you’re not so busy and overwhelmed and so that you can rest just like your body and mind need you to. 

Expertise 

Do you know how to do every single thing that has to be done perfectly? You might want to answer yes to that question, but the truth is the answer has to be no because no one knows how to do everything. However, some people know how to do one thing very well indeed, and that’s another reason why you shouldn’t try to do it all alone.

 

There will be all kinds of things you need to do in your day-to-day life, in your career, in your business, and so on. You’ll have to clean the house, you’ll have to save money, you’ll have to market your side hustle, you’ll have to take care of the groceries, you’ll have to walk the dog, you’ll have to fix things around the house, you’ll have to be a sounding board for loved ones who need to vent… 

 

Or rather, you’ll do some of those things. Some of them, the ones you don’t know how to do or, if you’re honest, others (professionals in most cases) can do better, are things you don’t have to do and really shouldn’t do. You’ve got enough on your plate, so why not outsource some tasks to people with the appropriate expertise to do them well? A wealth management advisor is a much better person to turn to than trying to work out how to handle your money yourself, for example, and a plumber or an electrician are the best options when you need to make repairs around the house. The same is true of anything you just don’t have the qualifications, experience, or expertise to do well – by not doing it all yourself and asking other people to do things for you, you’re saving yourself a lot of trouble, and the results you get will be much more positive as well. 

Your Skills

We’ve just been talking about how you can’t be good at everything and why asking for help from people who are good at the things you’re not is going to be massively beneficial. However, there’s something else to think about here – if you ask other people to help you with the tasks you don’t want to learn more about, you’ll have more time to get better at the ones you do want to learn more about.

 

Learning is something we should all do more of in life, and it’s a continuous thing – it’s not something that just immediately stops when we leave school or college. The problem is that being so overwhelmed with everything that has to be done means there’s no time to learn new skills that would actually be beneficial and perhaps even make life easier. And even if there is time, it’s likely you’ll be tired and stressed and not really have the inclination to learn more. 

 

So, it stands to reason that if you outsource some tasks (or even just ask friends and family to help you out) so you don’t have to do it all alone anymore, you’ll have more time and more energy and you’ll be able to enhance your skills in the areas you want to. That could be cooking, driving, running your business, DIY repairs around the home, taking up a hobby, and so much more. Learning is good for you, and it keeps your brain active, so making sure you have the time is going to benefit you in all kinds of different ways. 

Final Thoughts

Trying to do everything yourself might seem like the right thing to do – it might seem like the noble and sensible thing to do. It might even feel as though it’s the thing that’s expected of you. But the truth is that trying to do it all yourself probably won’t give you the results you want and need, and probably will cause you to get sick, either mentally or physically (and sometimes both). 

 

That’s why it’s wise to ask for help when you need it, and to be honest about when that time comes and what it means. Getting help is not a sign of weakness and should be celebrated, especially when it can make your life better after you do it.